Where Do You Live? Discover Your True Spiritual Home
When someone asks, “Where do you live?” they’re rarely just after your address. More often, they’re trying to figure out who you are—or at least who they think you are.
Tell someone you live in the Caribbean (as I did for over 20 years), and they’ll likely imagine you as laid-back, friendly, maybe throwing in a “Hey, mon” for good measure. Mention New York City, and suddenly they picture someone fast-paced, focused, and maybe just a little intense.
These assumptions may or may not be accurate, but they highlight a truth: our environment shapes us. Where we live affects how we talk, think, move, and relate to others.
So here’s a bigger question for us as followers of Jesus:
Where do you live spiritually?
Scripture tells us clearly:
“For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.”
— Colossians 3:3
Let that sink in. You live “with Christ” “in God“. The Triune God—Father, Son, and Spirit—is your true Home.
And like any home, this one is meant to shape you.
From Individualism to Relationship
In God’s own life, there’s no such thing as individualism. The Father glorifies the Son, and the Son reveals the Father. The Spirit lives as the love between them. Each Person is distinct, yet they live fully for one another.
Living in that kind of environment should pull us out of self-focused living and rewire us for community.
The New Testament echoes this with over 50 “one another” commands: love one another, bear with one another, prefer one another, confess your sins to one another. These aren’t just good practices—they’re the culture of our new home.
As we obey them, we start to experience and reflect the communal life of God Himself.
From Self-Sufficiency to Mutual Dependence
Though the Father, Son, and Spirit are all-powerful, they choose to work in mutual dependence. Creation wasn’t a solo act. Salvation wasn’t either. Even today, the Spirit only speaks what He hears from the Father and the Son.
Meanwhile, we’re not omnipotent—but we still try to live like we are. We’ve been conditioned to depend on ourselves, to push through, to get it done.
But living in God invites us into a new rhythm: learning to trust. Trusting God in prayer. Trusting others in community. Trusting that we don’t have to hold everything together.
You can actually gauge your trust level by two things:
- How much time you give to prayer
- The range of things you bring to God in prayer
The good news? God is patient. He’s always growing us deeper into trust and dependence—on Him, and on one another.
From Hustle & Worry to Rest & Identity
At Jesus’ baptism, before He preached a sermon or performed a miracle, the Father said:
“This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.”
That approval came before any works. It wasn’t earned—it was freely given because of Hia identity as Son.
Most people today live under the pressure to prove themselves. They chase validation, longing to be seen, to be significant, to be loved. But validation that comes from people can be taken away just as quickly—especially in a culture that thrives on canceling rather than covering.
Worse still, if you have to earn love, the goalpost keeps moving.
But in Christ, the Father says to you, “You are My beloved. I am pleased with you.” You don’t have to work for that love. You don’t have to hustle to keep it. It’s yours—secure, unshakable, eternal.
From that place of security, we learn to work from rest, not for approval. We begin not with striving but with sonship.
Let Your Home Shape You
You live in God. That’s not just a theological idea—it’s a practical reality with real-life implications.
So let your Home shape you. Let it call you into deeper community. Let it teach you dependence. Let it anchor you in identity and peace.
And as you do, you’ll start to look more like the One who lives in you—and more like the Home where you truly belong.
If this stirred something in you, share it with a friend or leave a comment—I’d love to hear how your “home” is shaping you these days.
Face To Face
Which of these three aspects do you struggle with the most, and which do you find easier? Spend some time with the Lord, thanking Him for what He is working into you and asking Him for grace where He shows you that growth is needed.
